Did You Really Just Do That?

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“So how about this weather?” that was the first sentence to come out of D’s mouth.  I just got out of my class and turned to look at the guy that decided that was a good way to start a conversation.  To my surprise he was actually a good looking, well dressed guy that just happened to have lame pick up lines.  We both continued to walk through campus to our cars with a bit of small talk until I reached my car.  D was a year older than me and had been going to school before I even started.  I was surprised I never ran into him since our school was pretty small, really small…1,000 people small.

We talked a little more and he asked me for my number.  To be honest a little flattered since it was that middle of the week, right before an exam, baseball hat on kind of day.  D called me over the weekend and we started chatting…which eventually led to a date the following week.

D decided our first date would be a steakhouse which we met there, I found it a little strange that he didn’t want to pick me up but whatevs.  Conversation was easy and not a lot of awkward pauses until he reached for my hands, grabbing them across the table.  I mean I had spent maybe all of 35 minutes with D and he was already holding my hands, yes not one hand, both.  I went with it though, hoping our food would arrive soon.

The food finally arrived, we both ordered steak but mine came with a mountain onions and cilantro on top.  I started to push it to the side since I don’t like either when D asked me if I wasn’t going to eat it if he could have it.  I said sure and reached for the clean bread plate to put it on.  Before I knew it, D was going for it.  He was not waiting, he wanted that cilantro and onions!  My jaw dropped watching this guy.  You would think he would grab his plate and push it close to mine.  Nope.  This guy was grabbing the mixture with his hands and dropping it on his plate, all the while dropping pieces on the table.  Did he really just do that?

Good manners are a “thing” with me and this guy was unbelievable.  I mean it is one thing to be with family and friends, it’s another to be in a super, fancy restaurant on a first date.  I couldn’t believe it.  I told my friends about it and I am known to be a little picky and they kept telling me to give this guy another chance.  So I did…he was a nice guy that was lacking a bit of sense of humor.  His response to a funny story was “that’s funny” and did not even crack a smile, which in turn made me laugh more.

Second date with D…you guessed it…another meal.  This time it was lunch between classes at a nearby pizza place.  I ordered a salad that was LOADED with olives.  I had put some on a small plate so they wouldn’t all spill out as soon as I mixed the salad.  We started talking a bit as D munched through his giant meatball sub, getting sauce all over his face.  I just kept telling myself to be cool and go with it.  He asked if he could have some olives and i said of course, pushing the plate full of olives to him.  Once again, nope.  He stuck his hand in my salad.  His fingers digging through this perfect greek deliciousness, almost like a dog looking for a bone, to get some olives.  Once again, I felt like I needed to pick my jaw off the floor.  I mean did he really just do that again.  Sauce covered face with a pile of 20 napkins all crumpled up.  I was done and appetite over.  How could I ever bring this guy to a family dinner?

Needless to say, that was the last time D and I went on a date where we had to eat.  If we went on another lunch/dinner date, I would have to take note from the guy above and create a menu fort.

Do you have any crazy lunch or dinner dates like this?  Or am I just the pickiest person ever?  Share your stories in the comments!

xoxo

single girl in atlanta

First Heartbreak

  

Do you remember the first time you had your heartbroken, the first time you cried over someone?  I remember it like it was yesterday. I was in 5th grade, yup, at the young age of 11! I had a boyfriend, B. That of course was like all young love, you would talk on the phone, write notes to each other (you know back in the day where we would pass notes in class, before technology that now rules our world…the good old days), try to sneak holding hands, and meet at the skating rink on the weekends. They had these coins at the skating rink that you could engrave, if your boyfriend did that for you, you knew he really “loved you”. There was no talk about sex or anything sexual except for the occasional peck on the lips. Truly, innocent puppy love. 

Anyways, B was my boyfriend and even gave me a stuffed bunny (which I’m sure I still have in a box somewhere) at my first boy/girl birthday party.  We danced to Boyz II Men and had our first kiss when we played spin the bottle. It was love. 

Then came the day that B told me that he wanted to break up and that he had a crush on my best friend.  I thought my world had ended. I remember holding back tears all day long. My stepdad picked me up from school that day, the one day I needed my mom.  When my mom came home she came upstairs to say hello and as soon as I saw her I started bawling running into her arms and getting the comfort that only your mom can give you. My mom was immediately alarmed wondering what happened. Tears were flowing, you know those crys when you cant even speak because you’re crying so hard? I managed to get out the words, “B broke up with me because he likes my best friend”. When I told her B broke up with me, she started laughing thinking that something major had happened, but to me it was major.  I looked up at her and her smile faded, talking to me and telling me all the things that a mom would say when yo. Man, it hurt though…I thought my life was over at that moment that the love of my life loved another.  

Isn’t it funny that at that age you can care for someone so deeply, or what you think is so deeply and completely that you think you’ll never love again? What made it okay is that my best friend had zero interest in B and I hate to say I got a little satisfaction in that. Well, B ended up moving in the middle of the school year to another state a month or so later due to his dad’s job transfer. On his last day, he gave me a hug and we both cried and that was it. Goodbye, B. 

Thanks to Facebook, B and I have reconnected and have discussed our “5th Grade Love”.  We laugh about it and talk about all the good times.  But, B will always be the first boy that broke my heart. 

xoxo

single girl in atlanta